How can I make sex less painful right now while awaiting diagnosis?

If penetration hurts, it’s okay to pause and adjust—pain isn’t something you should push through. In the moment, many people do better with plenty of lubricant, slower pacing, longer arousal time, and positions that limit depth or allow you to control angle and pressure. Planning intimacy on lower-symptom days (often avoiding peak cycle flare days) can also make a meaningful difference.

If the pain feels sharp with deeper penetration, or if you notice guarding, burning, or tightening, pelvic floor muscle overactivity can be part of the picture, and targeted pelvic floor therapy can be very helpful. If pain during sex is paired with painful periods, pelvic pain, bowel or bladder symptoms, or post-sex cramping, it may point to an underlying condition such as endometriosis or adenomyosis—our team can help evaluate the root cause and discuss next steps. If you’re ready, you can reach out to schedule a consultation so we can tailor a plan to your symptoms and goals.